WHAT was your worst fear, as young woman, when you were kicking up your heels with your condom-less lover? I’ll bet my weighted hula hoop it wasn’t herpes, HIV, or even VD, as we used to call it. I’ll tell you what my worst fear was… getting pregnant!
Honestly, I can’t remember one single lover back then who actually whipped out a condom before making whoopee with me. I toted my own, pinched from my parent’s medicine chest. My dad always had a healthy supply of Ramses lambskin condoms at the ready.
I daren’t ask what part of the lamb was sacrificed to manufacture
that luxurious loot.
If my dad ever noticed his condom supplies mysteriously dwindling, at least he had the good sense not to ask. Thanks, Dad.
In case you’re now dashing off to the drugstore condom rack, take note – apparently the lambskin ones aren’t as effective in preventing Sexually Transmitted Infections because of the pores in the lambskin.
Shockingly, I found things had not changed that much when I re-entered the dating field again in my thirties. In an era where fear of herpes and HIV was all the rage, many of my dates still shunned the ‘wiener wrapper’. ‘Oh, it just doesn’t feel the same, I can’t get it up with that thing on’ were the most popular flimsy excuses.
And of course, let’s not forget the ubiquitous, ‘We’ll just put it in, and I promise I won’t come’. That one’s alway good for a laugh!
Ever heard of Human Papillomavirus… Hello?! That puppy can kill you and there’s no ejaculate required, simply skin contact will do the trick.
Admittedly, I was no angel but I do tend to get a tad riled up on this subject. If you ask a guy to wrap it up in a condom and he doesn’t ‘feel like it’, then how do you feel? It’s challenging enough dealing with one’s own fear of rejection, ‘what if my new stud decides to take his leave when I ask him to slip on a second skin?’ you wonder.
Wonder this – what if Studley practices infidelity as well as unsafe sex?
You might also think, ‘what the heck, I’m on the pill, its’ all good’.
Who are you kidding? It’s a different ball game altogether now.
Be brutally honest with yourself. Do you really want to hump a guy who not only has complete disregard for your health and safety, but doesn’t respect his own either? What if you‘re unwittingly harboring an STI?
No Studley’s Doright’s that good looking and some things do matter more than size. Yes, it’s a bitter pill to swallow but you’ll live longer.
Why am I off on a rant? Well, you know how we girls like to talk… Some of the lovely ladies in my posse are newly released singles and boy are they having a hoot dating. Just like kids in a candy store. So I posed that
pertinent question, “Are you using a condom?”.
The unanimous ‘nyet’ sent a chill down my spine.
Ladies, I have some simple words of advice - Wrap it or leave it! Plenty of fish in the sea.
Noticing how strongly I felt about this I decided to catch up with an expert on safe sex and STI’s, Dr Wilf Steinberg, gynecologist extraordinaire, for an interview in between his traveling lectures.
Scintillating as sex is, it can be a bit of a risky game so do yourself a favor, enjoy this little series of of interviews on safe sex.
Even if you’re not a re-emerging player in the dating game I know you’ll glean a thing or two to pass onto your own ‘V’s’. That’s how a girlfriend of mine refers to her female posse.
Stay tuned for the next episode!
Oh and, Dad..I’m sorry, I hope that in retrospect you’re not mad at me for pilfering your prophylactics. Thanks for being a good example.
Esmée SJ
E…anything exciting worth pursuing and attaining involves risk…the chase is certainly part of the thrill.Mitigating the risk and avoiding the bad outcomes enhances the ultimate pleasure of the experience. Sex is not different.The wonderful end result can be ruined by ignorance of or indifference to the negative consequences. Smart players maximize their wins and minimize their losses.
W: So true, I really like the way you put it. Ya gots to pay if ya wants to play
Thank you for the insightful comment.